It’s happened again.
An unarmed black man was shot and killed by white men. While this article has “Ahmaud Arbery” in the title, we could replace his name with any number of similar events within our country.
The cultural conversation for stories like Ahmaud’s, Trayvon’s, Philando’s, Botham’s, and Atatiana’s usually goes like this:
- Liberals: They should not have died!
- Conservatives: Let’s wait until we know all the facts.
- Liberals: What circumstances can make this person dying deserved?
- Conservatives: Well, look at the kind of person they are!
- Liberals: All white people are racist and #blacklivesmatter.
- Conservatives: I’m not racist, and they should have just followed the law better – then they’d still be alive.
But what should our response as followers of Jesus be?
I think we should be above and beyond those arguments. I believe our response should be shaped not by the law, by the videos, or by the narrative. Our arguments should not appeal to the Constitution, the Bill of Rights, or the Governor’s office.
Our responses, conversations, and arguments should depend on the person and ministry of Jesus and the Bible.
Here are three ways to reflect Jesus in any divisive conversation.
1. With Mourning
Death’s presence in our world is scandalous!
As Christians, our first response to stories about someone dying should be sadness, lament, and mourning. Regardless of the circumstances, death is not something we should easily excuse. It should be a reminder that the world is not as it should be.
When we respond to death with a quick justification or accusation, we are skipping over the deep tragedy of death.
Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.
Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:14-18
Our first response to hearing news of someone being killed should be to mourn with their friends, family, and community. Blame is not needed. Defense is not beneficial.
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In the case of Ahmaud Arbery specifically, and most situations generally, we must not rush to defend the men who killed him. We should not immediately blame racism or hatred.
Instead, we mourn.
We imagine what it would feel like if our son, sister, father, or wife were killed under similar circumstances. Then sit in that pain.
2. With Love
We so often fail to reflect Christ’s love in the way we conduct ourselves publicly and online.
Here’s a quick refresher on what Christian love looks like:
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
When we hear about someone being shot by a cop, by vigilantes, or by a criminal, we need to be sure our words and attitudes reflect the love of Jesus. After we mourn their death with their friends and family, we should still be sure we listen before we speak. We should not be quick to dismiss someone’s viewpoint.
Too often interactions can devolve into name-calling and digital yelling. No one learns from that. No one grows. No one’s mind is changed.
We Christians have Truth on our side. That means we should be more gracious and patient and loving than anyone else. The Apostle Paul understood that when he wrote those words from Corinthians above.
When our conversations stop being loving before anything else, we have failed. We do not need to win every argument. We do not have to change everyone’s mind. We do not have to confront every idea we disagree with.
But we should display patience, kindness, goodness, self-control, gentleness, peace, faithfulness, joy, and love in every interaction.
3. With Yearning
Hearing about death and violence and grief should stir a deep yearning for it to be “on earth as it is in heaven.”
It should cause us to hunger for a world full of justice and righteousness. A world in which misery and pain are neutralized.
A world in which the hungry are fed and the lowly are lifted.
A world in which death has been defeated.
Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Revelation 21:3-5
It’s not enough to trust that Jesus has saved me. I must also devote my life to following and continuing in his work of redemption, reconciliation, and restoration.
The next time you see a post on Facebook or Twitter about someone being shot to death – pause. Do not respond right away.
Think about their family.
Think about the experience of getting the phone call about your family member being killed. Think about seeing their name and face all over the news. Think about what it must be like to hear someone saying your brother is deserving of death.
Listen to the stories of the people who are scared and hurt by the story. Be full of patience and mercy and grace and love.
And kindle your passion to partner with God in wiping away every tear and injustice.
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The intro to this in the hypothetical conversation between a “liberal” and a conservative is already misleading and highly offensive. The rest of the article isn’t bad, but that needs to be removed. Or you will able to say goodby to any “liberals” who Love Jesus and choose to listen to your station. This is appalling and doesn’t speak love or life into anything. Shame on you!
Mandy, both sides of the “conversation” are simplistic and stereotypical. I would agree that it doesn’t add anything to the article’s argument.
Hi @Mandy and @Kim-
It seems my attempt to oversimplify the conversation and show both sides as the caricatures they are often accused of being worked too well without being obvious.
I’m sorry I offended you.
I’ve heard from a few people that this article comes up short, and I will do my best to learn from it. Were there other parts besides the conversation at the beginning that you found lacking or offensive?
Thank you for reading and responding. Having people engage is the only way I know how to learn and be better.
Hi Jude,
No need to apologize to me. Although I did not prefer the technique, I was not offended. I understood what you were trying to convey. I agree with the Biblical directives you outline. I think that it stops short of saying what we do when we “hunger for a world full of justice and righteousness.” However, I don’t think that every article has to do everything. Perhaps the basic steps of just being loving, kind, and compassionate are what many need to hear about responding in these cases.
I appreciate how your article “Cops Aren’t Racist…” directly challenged fallacies.
Best,
Kim
Amen! We must also respond in humility and acknowledgement of racism as a tool of the enemy and know that we all of are of ONE blood through Adam and Christ.
1 John 4:4 You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. 5 They are from the world and therefore speak from the viewpoint of the world, and the world listens to them. 6 We are from God, and whoever knows God listens to us; but whoever is not from God does not listen to us. This is how we recognize the Spirit[a] of truth and the spirit of falsehood.
7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. 10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.
Dion, it seems like the “acknowledgment of racism” is problematic for some White conservative evangelical Christians in the United States. I am not exactly sure why except to say that discussing its existence is seen as “liberal” and “leftist” and part of a “democratic” agenda.
Why is it so difficult to acknowledge that the people listed at the beginning of the article were judged, mistreated, and killed because of the color of their skin? They would not have been treated the same way had they been white. Study after study after study after study show that our systems of justice, education, housing, banking, policing, healthcare….are not executed equitably across races.
What is really interesting is that conservative evangelical Christians can be very generous. The Southern Baptists respond to disasters with volunteers and resources that rival the Red Cross. Conservative Christians run and support organizations that fund orphanages and sponsor impoverished children around the world, dig wells in places without clean water, buy families chickens and goats across rural Asia, and pay for pediatric surgeries in African countries with inadequate healthcare. In all these ways, they care for the widow and the orphan, heal the sick, give food to the hungry, and side with the marginalized. Would anyone argue if the Dalits (“untouchables”) started a #DalitLivesMatter movement in India to draw attention to how their lives are not valued as much as others in a society where they face education, housing, policing, and healthcare discrimination? I guess it’s easier to acknowledge problems happening across the world than across the street.